You had too much going on during your divorce to possibly consider dating. This same script, I’m reminded, played out in the life of one of my favorite clients who fell in love with a separated man.Therefore, you seem to think all men should feel the same way. But you are correct in proceeding with a sense of caution. Not because he listed himself as divorced but is really separated. He gave a lot to her during their time together, but, when it got right down to it, he really needed to sow his oats for awhile.In the first few weeks and months of dating, as our best selves are presented, we've found ourselves thinking, Finally, a guy who isn't emotionally stunted! But at some point, the curtain is pulled back just like in the "Wizard of Oz" and, yup, his emotional issues are right there. If his mother expected him to be "the man of the family," he may be looking for a woman who is helpless and needs taking care of. What he really needs: To realize that you are NOT his mother.
I've had lots of email contacts with wonderful men, but my current bf says he wants me all to himself, so I haven't gone out with anyone. I look forward to hearing if there are any POSITIVE outcomes to dating a separated man. Often in such a situation, a guy will grab a girl like a life preserver... Lot's of people are divorced but still so hung up and involved with the ex that there's no room for a new relationship, although they may jump into them.The Frisky: 7 things guys say that spell trouble 3.The Flounderer: He's unhappy in his career, either because he hasn't advanced as much as he thought he would have or it's not what he wants to be doing, period.I'm also frusterated with a man who wants me all to himself when he is supporting his wife and keeping her in a grand lifestyle. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but when people are truly finished with one another as marriage partners, they get divorced.... Only you can know what he does or doesn't do and how it makes you feel.Financial issues are almost always created with a divorce, but when they don't consider themselves PARTNERS anymore, they each make their own way through them, seperately. If you pursue this, how he is now will not be how he will be a year from now,or divorced. Personally I don't get involved with men who are still mentally living with the ex, I don't see the point of a three way relationship.